Life after marriage

Many people enter marriage having very fancy ideas about the institution. This is particularly true for people who have a love marriage, mainly because you tend to have some set expectations from your partner.

I read somewhere : A woman marries a man thinking she will change him and he doesn't while a man marries a woman thinking she would never change and she does.

Well, I am not going to say that its true from the male or the female angle but what I do want to say is that whatever you expect, you are in for a surprise. Life after marriage is all about discovering your partner afresh (in case of an arranged marriage) or re-discovering your partner (in case of love marriages). Either way, you may be in for a surprise!! :)

In India particularly, whether you like it or not , whether you want to acknowledge it or not, it is the girl's life that changes to a greater extent. And I am not being oblivious to the fact that the guy's life undergoes some changes as well.But let's face it girls face more challenges and more changes.

It's not easy to suddenly move out of your home and into another "house" that youhaev to accept as "home". Nor is it easy to accept a new set of parents and relations and love them as your own. True, that the guy is doing all this too..but his is more of a temporary adjustment or rather short-time thing. He is after all not living with the girl's folks. He just meets them weekly or monthly at best for an hour or two.

On the other hand, the girl has to stay with the guy's family, unlearn her preferences, choices habits and learn the in-law's style of living. After all , you need to be accepted. From the food that you eat to the clothes you wear, the time you have your dinner to the festivals you celebrate, everything is governed by the new family.

In case you are a working woman, its harder. You need to balance the personal and professional life and keep everything running smoothly.

So, life after marriage may not be easy but its not all that difficult. After all you have someone sharing every step of it. In the end ,its love that makes every change worth the effort, every adjustment worth it. Because life is about changes. The more willingly you accept them, the better it is!!